HARNESSES

Harnesses allow for hands-free penetrative sex with a dildo.

 

"Thigh" type harnesses can be strapped to a smallish stationary object such as a pillow or a sofa arm...or, as the name suggests, to your leg! (Some folks have hip or lower back problems that prevent them from using a pelvic style harness, or may find them to be too male identified.)

 

"Pelvic" harnesses come in two designs: "single strap" (or thong)  and "two strap". They secure a dildo to the groinarea--sort of like a penis.

 

Strap-on Sex Can Be Fun, Raw, Dirty, Sweaty, Tiring, and Excellent.  Anyone Can Wear a Harness; Female Bodies Can Adjust the Dildo so It Rests a Little Lower, around Their Clit Area. WHILE MALE BODIED FOLKS CAN RAISE THE DILDO A LITTLE HIGHER to AVOID SMASHING THEIR OWN PENISES.

 

Remember when choosing a toy to go in a harness that dildos have no nerve endings, so it can be difficult to tell if they're in or out of a body opening in certain positions. Do yourself a favor--pick a dildo at least 5 ½ " long. Something too short will pop out of your partner repeatedly, which is frustrating. It's easier to adjust your position to accomodate for a slightly longer toy...and keep it in.  

 

Brand-new to this? Try standing up while you're having sex. Have your receiving partner sit on the edge of a counter or table so you can see where you're supposed to put your toy; you can easily touch and kiss in that position, and it's less tiring for most folks than the "push-up" position of missionary sex. :)